Kathy from Yin Yang Mother is never afraid to ask the hard questions, and the person she questions first is usually herself. Her beautiful blog is a pleasure to visit, and always makes me think just that little bit harder. Today Kathy is answering some questions that will let us know how Zen fits into her world.
Please tell us what your blog is about and why you started it.
My blog is yinyangmother, and it’s about ‘finding your flow’ with balance, gratitude and
contentment. I wanted to look at life through a yin yang lens, which is not about black and white and
opposites as some people think, but about doing our best to find balance in our lives, flowing with
change rather than resisting and realising that loss turns to gain, there are times for fast and times
for slow etc. I wanted to share my insights from trying to take this balanced approach in the hope
they would resonate with others and help them, and I really wanted to reconnect with writing again.
I’m a former journalist, but I felt the need to find my own voice.
I also wanted to explore the lessons I learned on our journey to parenthood through years of
infertility (including 9 IVF cycles) and the long and winding road of adoption, and hopefully my
insights might help people experiencing similar struggles.
I feel a real connection with yin yang thinking and the Taoist philosophy behind it as it originates
in China, where we adopted our two children from (and girl and a boy, so I really am a yin yang
What does “zen” mean to you?
In the classic sense, I think of zen as being calm and peaceful, although I understand Zen philosophy
goes much deeper. I aspire to be a ‘zen mother’ but I think the best I can do is balance the moments
of calm with the chaos, hence the yin yang approach.
Please share the post you’ve written that has had people really talking.
Can I nominate two – the post I wrote on Do you ever get over infertility? Is one of my most-read
and I really appreciate the comments I’ve received , and my 100th post (that included a giveaway
with big thanks to Zen Designs) was also popular, not just for the giveaway, but for because I wrote
a ‘love letter’ to myself and urged others to do the same – it got readers thinking.
Which 5 people from history would you most like to have dinner with and what do you think the
conversation would be about?
I would love to sit down with Lao Tzu (the father of Taoism) Buddha and Rumi – which should make
for a very deep conversation and I imagine I’d be left in awe. I could also invite Jesus, but I think I’d
invite Mother Teresa in his place for some female company and for all her wisdom on compassion.
And I’d leave the last spot for Hugh Jackman, for obvious reasons – he seems like such a nice
person and he’s an adoptive parent too, the same age as me, Australian (wow we have so much in
Is your blog what you thought it would be when you first started it?
I’m only just over a year into it and I’m still exploring the themes of balance, change and gratitude I
set out to delve into – but I’ve become more personal over time and I think people really respond to
vulnerability – I want my blog to be a place of empathy and solidarity. I’m really amazed at the sense
of community in blogging, which I hadn’t expected – attending Problogger reinforced how special
the connections we can make through blogging are. I have some big plans for my blog, but life is
busy and I have to be content with the yin ‘growing slow’ approach.
I have so many wonderful blog favourites that make me smile, what are the 3 that brighten your
day, plus one that we may not have heard of before?
I always love reading Emily from Have A Laugh On Me – she makes me laugh on the blog and in
person she’s a crack-up. Deb Danes from Home Life Simplified always makes me think – we share a
lot of similar ideas. Zanni from My Little Sunshine House always seems to be able to put sunshine
into her words and so she never fails to brighten my day. And I follow an American blog by Marie
Colantoni Pechet – Adventures in Spiritual Living. Marie is going through Stage 4 rectal cancer (I’ve
written about her on my blog) and her clarity about the important things in life, and her gratitude,
are simply inspirational.
The Random Roundup…… just for a bit of fun.
Which do you prefer?
Beach or Country.
Pinterest or Instagram.
Cheese or Chocolate.
Cheese (with a couple of squares of good dark chocolate)
Flats or Heels.
Heels (although my feet disagree)
Black & White or Colour Photography.
Black and white.
Cool or Warm Weather.
Warm (not too humid)
Fruit or Veggies.
Early Nights or Night Owl.
Early, but doesn’t happen often.
Tv or Radio.
Neither really – I prefer my own music collection.
Comedy or Drama.
A bit of both but I’ll take the laughs over drama.
Take a little time to visit Kathy’s lovely Yin Yang Mother, and find out how balance could make a difference to your day.