Today we’re sharing the dream of Rebecca Senyard, who not only blogs at The Plumbette, but also at Styled By Bec. And on top of that, she’s Mum to three gorgeous girls! With all that going on, I have no doubt Bec’s focus and drive will see her dream come true.
What is your most incredible dream?
I have a few dreams. I have immediate dreams and dreams for my future. My most immediate dream is to become a published author and write a book. Well actually it’s to have my book published. I’ve written a book about my journey becoming a plumber and it has been sitting unedited on my computer.
Do you think it’s attainable?
Yes, I think it’s attainable. The reason I started my blog was to build a readership for my book. As a result I fell in love with blogging and haven’t stopped, but I haven’t focused as much time on editing my book. I guess in my mind I wanted to have a big following on my blog before I’d put a plan into place in getting my book published. Writing the book is the easy part, getting it published and finding a publisher who is interested in publishing my book is the hard part.
How long have you been holding onto this dream?
I have wanted to write a book since I was little. I didn’t know what the book would be about but I always enjoyed writing stories as a child and I found essays easy to write when I was in high school. After finishing my apprenticeship, I decided to write about my experiences doing an apprenticeship. It’s a record of what I achieved as a plumbing apprentice and also as an encouragement to others that you can achieve success in a stereotypical job.
What will it take for your dream to become a reality?
Time to re-read and edit what I’ve written. Another reason my book has been on the backburner is because I’ve achieved three dreams in the last four years – having three gorgeous daughters. I always dreamed of being a mum and I’m thankful that that dream has come true.
With the dream of my book – I feel like my writing has gotten better since starting my blog and I think I may be able to make my book better by re-writing some parts of it. But I need the time to sit and focus on it and when you have a baby and two other little uns, it’s hard to get time to focus on my book. I also think I need to get over my fear of no one wanting to read it and send a chapter to a publisher to see what they think.
Who are the people that encourage you the most?
My family. My husband and mum are avid readers of my blog. My mum is the first to like a blog post on facebook. My husband loves reading all the comments after I’ve written a blog post. I gave a copy of my book to dad to read when he went overseas and he read it three times and told me how much he loved it. Having family that believe in my dreams and encourage me when I don’t believe in myself is a great blessing.
Who inspires you, and makes you want to chase your dream?
Most recently, the female pastors at my church have inspired me. I have faith in God and when I see the successful lives of females who are in leadership at church, I’m inspired to put God first because I want to live a full life just like they do. When I see other women living Godly lives and see their successes in their field, I draw courage and inspiration from that because I know that my story in a book form is a God given gift that people need to read and share in. I’m also inspired by bloggers who write great blogs and have written books like Nikki Parkinson from Styling You and Kelly Exeter from A life less frantic – although I’m yet to read Kelly’s book. It’s on my wish list for Christmas.
So now you know where to go if you have either a plumbing or styling issue. And I’m still pretty impressed that this lady is so diverse in her blogging.
Over the last year or so, I’ve been lucky enough to interview some fabulous bloggers for my The Zen Files and What’s Your Dream? series. If you’d like to see what that’s all about, click through to see my own contributions, to give you some idea of the questions I ask.
I love seeing what others are working towards, what drives them and what brought them to where they are now. I’m also extremely nosey, so tend to ask lots of questions. And this has meant that I’ve learnt lots of interesting stuff about some amazing writers.
Now I need to put the call out for more volunteers, and I’m looking at YOU! I’ve previously been contacting people and asking if they would like to join in, but at the moment I’m juggling a few things, so I’m doing this the lazy way. If you would like to play along and be interviewed for either series, please contact me on firstname.lastname@example.org or leave me a comment on this post. I’ll send you the questions to answer when you can.
And if I’ve sent either set of questions to you and you’ve been too busy to get to them, please don’t think you can’t still answer them. Feel free to get to them when you have 5 minutes spare and send them back. We all get busy, and I want to find out as much about the gorgeous bloggers whose work I love, as I can.
I’ve got two new things in the pipeline; one to do with blogging and the other to do with my Zen Notes, and I’m so excited with how they’re both coming together. I’ll be putting all the details about my new blogging venture on here in the next couple of weeks, and I’m hoping you might find it a bit interesting too.
But this has meant that the hours in my days are floating away even faster than usual. So please consider this your invitation to tell us some more about what zen means to you or how you’re working towards your dream.
So yet again I’m asking for others to talk about themselves. And you know what? I’m quite positive I’m not the only one who enjoys reading the answers.
There are so many varied performers that I love; singers, actors, generally clever people who I admire. I’ve collected some of them on my Entertain Me board on Pinterest, and know this is just the tip of the iceberg for me. Some from years ago, some from today, but all super talented.
This list of questions is from Kelly at A Life Less Frantic, and I love that it made me think hard about myself while coming up with the answers.
The one thing I should do less often is: Care about what people think of me. Honestly, everyone has their own lives to live, and realistically I know that no one really cares what I do. My need to please people can really do my head in sometimes.
The one thing I should do more often is: Take advantage of the beautiful beach just down the road from my house. It’s so close, but I tend to get sidetracked if I don’t get down there first thing in the morning.
Note to self: make a habit of this!
The one thing that always makes me smile is: Watching Bell making videos of herself dancing in the backyard. This is always best when she doesn’t know I’m watching and her gorgeous soul is taking flight.
That kid finds so much joy in music, and I love it!
The one thing that does my head in is: If I let myself wander back to my past and start thinking how I could have done things differently. The time has passed, things are done and without that elusive time machine, I can’t go back and change anything.
But you know what? As bad as some of the times were, had I not lived through them, I wouldn’t have been led down the path that has brought me to my current life. When I find myself thinking of the drama, I snap my mind back to the present and think how grateful I am to have my lovely little family.
The one thing I should eat more of is: Chocolate-free foods. No explanation needed.
The one thing I can do to make the world a better place is: Help get the word around that if you put some good stuff out there, it will come back to you. It doesn’t cost anything to make someone feel good about themselves, and maybe in the long run that could have a positive impact on many people.
The one thing I need to remind myself is: You can’t be great at everything right from the start. I expect too much from myself when it comes to learning new things, and think I should be an expert straight away. As handy as that would be, it’s certainly not realistic, and I need to tell myself that often.
I need to appreciate the joy of learning and practising as part of the fun.
The one thing I should do for myself right now is: Commit to getting more sleep. The hard thing is, I don’t feel there’s enough hours in the day to work on all the exciting things I have going on! Once I get started working on a project, the hours melt away, and sleep doesn’t feel so important. That is until the next morning, when I wish I’d gone to bed even an hour earlier.
I’ve always been a night-owl, so that’s a hard habit to break.
How would you answer these questions?
Some school days I’m amazed at what Bell has to take to school. Every day she needs to take a huge backpack and full book satchel, then 2 days a week she has her HPE bag with uniform and shoes as well. On Thursdays, add to that her guitar, and it’s safe to say she’s quite often loaded up!
Her school’s pretty strict and there’s no excuses why they can’t bring everything required each day. But to her credit, she just loads up and gets on with it. There’s been a few days that I’ve wondered how she was going to get it all there, but she has a good routine going, and it seems to work for her. At drop-off each morning, I see hundreds of kids all in the same boat.
I love that she just gets on with it, knowing that the rules are there for a reason, and think that sometimes I could take a leaf out of her book.
I know that at times I’ll have something to do, and instead of getting stuck in, will dwell on the fact that it’s not convenient, pleasant or just something that I don’t feel like doing. Wouldn’t it be a lot quicker and easier if I just got it done and moved onto the next job?
Of course it would, and that would be sensible; get it done and you can move on! But, do you think I can get into that habit? Not always.
This is something I’m trying to get better at, and I doubt that I’m on my own in this. It’s easy to make time for the fun things we need to do, but the tough stuff can easily get put off. The silly thing is; I know I still have to do it, but somehow in my head I think if I put it off it goes away.
So am I an ostrich? Yep, can be at times. Is it productive? Sadly, no. Can I change? Absolutely, and that’s what I’m working on. I’m trying to be more aware of getting the hard things done first, then looking forward to the fun stuff. I don’t always succeed, and still procrastinate sometimes, but I’m getting better.
When I feel myself wanting to put off a hard task, I think of this clever quote from Mark Twain.
“Eat a live frog first thing in the morning, and nothing worse will happen to you the rest of the day.”
So, do you eat the frog first, and if so, what are some tips to help me get into the habit?
I love all the retro TV shows that are on at the moment . We don’t have cable or pay TV, so just have the free-to-air options to choose from. Mind numbing reality shows are my favourites; just the thing to have on in the background while I’m doing stuff.
Bell watches ABC3 when she has some downtime, and John’s favourites are series that he can watch in blocks of episodes with no ads.
But I have to say, I do get lost in replays of the shows I loved when I was a kid; The Brady Bunch, Happy Days, Laverne & Shirley. When I watch them now, it does take me back to a simpler time. A time when there seemed to be a lot less exposure and a lot more innocence. And honestly, I really don’t mind floating back there for a little while.
When Bell and I watch these shows together, particularly The Brady Bunch, she often comments on how “kiddie” the kids actually are. It’s times like this that I realize just how much the world has grown up from one generation to the next.
With so much information constantly and instantly available to us, we now know much more about things that may not have influenced us 30 years ago. Kids are learning, not only from parents and teachers, but also from society in general. Our back yard is now much bigger than it used to be.
As much as it sometimes disturbs me how much information is being presented to our children at a younger age, it also excites me for the possibilities and opportunities available to them.
I know keeping lines of communication open is key as a parent, these days probably more than ever. I hope that Bell always feels comfortable enough to come to us, when she needs to. It does scare me when I hear about families who, even though they’re all living under the same roof, don’t have any interaction. As much as technology makes our lives more wonderful in so many ways, it does have a lot to answer for.
My family situation growing up was a lot different, as was John’s. In my house it was me, my sister and my mum and we kind of all pulled together. John’s formative years were spent in China and Hong Kong, so cultural differences come into play there. Between us, we’re muddling through and making up the rules as we need them. And I bet our parents and grandparents had to do exactly the same.
So I guess we’re all learning about this parenting thing together. The rules and guidelines need to change with the times, and I think the worst thing we could do would be to live by the motto of “ignorance is bliss”. A trap easy to fall into, and comforting in the short term.
I honestly don’t feel that we’re living in a time that’s any worse than earlier generations, just different. And that can be a really positive thing, right?
What is the biggest difference today, to when you were growing up?