Here’s my new D list and here’s my old D list. Feel free to let me know which important ones I’ve forgotten.
Drop - Busy, busy, busy! That’s most of us, most of the time, but do we really need to be? Are we filling our days with lots of stuff, just because everyone else seems to be rushing around? Make a list of the things that make up your day and see if there is anything not absolutely essential, that you could maybe drop. Being a little selfish every now and then is a good idea too. You may be expected to squash a whole heap of stuff into your timetable, but that’s not always going to be a positive thing for you.
If it’s not an important part of what you’re doing, think about putting it off to a more convenient time, or even passing it on to someone else, who has a spare minute or two more than you.
Drink - My name is Lisa, and I’m a coffee tragic. I’ve been known to put away eight decent cups on a good (bad?) day, and feel like something’s missing if I don’t have a cup on my desk at all times. But I’m not totally ignorant to the fact that this isn’t great for my health, and I’m weaning myself off my liquid of choice. I make sure that I have filled water bottles in the fridge every morning, then challenge myself to drink a decent amount each day.
I have to admit, as much as I love coffee and the habit that it is, keeping my water intake topped up gives me a clearer head. It also makes me appreciate the much less frequent cuppas that I now enjoy. A good trick is fill up the amount you want to drink each day, then gradually work your way through it. Much easier than counting how many glasses you’re up to.
Deviate - Routine is what we generally need to get things done, in a timely fashion. But routine can be so boring. If it’s possible to deviate from your regular, shake it up a little. Knowing that you’ll be doing a certain thing at a certain time is the responsible thing to do, but if you can move things around, it can be just that little bit more exciting and bearable.
You’ve heard it, “a change is as good as a holiday”, and we all need a holiday every now and then.
Doze - As part of a shift-working household, I don’t always get as much sleep as I should. I kind of grab a few catch-up minutes during the day when I can, and find that helps keep me going. Power napping sort of sounds a bit woo-ish, but letting yourself doze off for a solid 10 or 15 minutes, can make all the difference when you’re feeling sapped of energy. Just don’t do it close to school pick up time, or you could be setting yourself up for a real panic!
Decide - As children, we’re quite often asked what we want to be when we grow up. I know I do this with Bell, and over the years her answers have ranged from “a princess, policeman or a tree” when she was about 3, to “I don’t even know” at the ripe old age of 11. I remember when I was little I wanted to be a teacher or a shopkeeper. I also remember being expected to have a career path, only to have it disappear when family circumstances changed dramatically, and I went into retail at age 15.
When you think about it, knowing what you want to do for the rest of your life, when you’re only a littlie is a bit unrealistic. I know there are kids who follow their dream right through to adulthood, but does it absolutely have to be like that for everyone? I’ve come to the conclusion that you don’t need to decide how your life map looks, and stick to that decision. We evolve and change how we need to, and putting any boundaries on that can go a long way to making you a frustrated mess.
As much as we want Bell to have a secure future, and stress to her how important her education is, we also encourage her to think about what would make her happy on a daily basis as an adult in the working world. I can’t help but think that if I’d been encouraged to follow my heart a little more when it came to a job, I wouldn’t feel that little twinge of regret that I don’t have a “real” career. I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up, but I do know that it involves creating.
So, do you know what you want to be when you grow up?