A little while ago, the gorgeous Deb from Home Life Simplified asked me if I would like to contribute to a collaborative book she was putting together. I was so thrilled with the invitation and jumped at the chance!
Deb has been working so hard at bringing this project to life, and it’s finally here. Today I’m sharing the piece I wrote for the book, and I’m including the link so you can enjoy all the fabulous essays that make up Heart-Centred Living.
I’m so excited and humbled to be in the company of some very talented writers, and just know you’ll enjoy all this positivity in one lovely book.
Celebrating The Everyday.
Why should any particular day be more important than another?
In our society, we have certain days that are celebrated a lot more than others: birthdays, Christmas, Easter, Valentine’s, New Year, the list seems to be endless. But what about those fabulous days in between, the ones where something wonderful happens? How about those days when you wake up and just know it’s going to be a good one?
I’m not really sure what it is that makes a day so special. Spending time with the people you love, hanging out at a place that has some significance to you, completing a task that has been lingering or even just doing nothing. All of these can make you stop and realize that it’s the little things that make up the big memories.
Some days I just feel are destined for greatness, the plans are in place to make the most of every minute, and that’s wonderful. But then other mornings, the ones that we have a slow start, seem to bloom into a day that is full of good stuff. Have a think about what makes a good day for you, is it any particular thing that happens, or is it the fact that you got to spend time with great people? Is it a milestone that you may have reached, or is it a little thing that made you smile?
If we approach each day with a certain amount of hope, it seems that the outcome can be more positive than starting off with a “why bother” attitude. To me, it’s about the way we interpret things that happen, whether they’re expected or not. Why not start to look for the little things in each day that could be a highlight? Maybe even make a list, or keep a journal. Looking back over times that have positive memories is a good way to find what makes you feel happy. You may even find that there’s a recurring theme or action that triggers a great feeling.
It doesn’t always have to be about winning, having a nice quiet day can be a blessing in this world where we seem to be always running. Have a look around your home, workspace, neighbourhood. Is there something that makes you smile or gives you that little jolt of happiness when you see it? These are the things that last in your mind, the kind of images you can pull up when times get a bit challenging. I find that some of my nicest times are the quiet pockets in the day, times that are nothing outstanding, but so important in the big picture.
I live near the beach and nothing makes my day sweeter than seeing the water. Some days I take our dogs for a walk along the beachfront, and the joy they get from exploring is priceless. Other days it’s enough just to sit quietly by myself looking out to the horizon, taking in the stillness. To me, that is a way to celebrate my day and appreciate what is around me.
A friend of mine would find sitting quietly looking out over the water the most boring thing she could imagine! Celebrating her day consists of tackling a room full of her corporate colleagues with a brilliant idea she has been working on. Another will spend hours creating baked delights to share with family and friends, her reward is the look on their faces when presented with the goodies. Neither of these activities are my idea of a good time, I find both of them way too challenging, but we’re all different. That’s why making the most of every day means something different to each person. It all comes down to what makes you feel good.
It’s only natural to be super excited about events that we’re looking forward to. We work hard towards the good things, and should absolutely count down to them. But not at the expense of the ordinary, nothing’s-gonna-happen-today days. I’ve fallen into this trap myself, wishing away the days, ticking off weeks at a time. It may be an overused saying, but life is seriously too short! It’s also a good way to put too much expectation on one particular thing, only to be let down if the reality doesn’t live up to our dreams.
See if you can find little sparks of sunshine in each day, and I don’t mean go outside and look at the sky. When we were kids, so many things made us happy. Finding a lady beetle on a flower, discovering a new game to play with friends, opening a new box of pencils. The small joys gave us as much pleasure as the big things sometimes, we just didn’t have limits on our expectations. Just the other day when I picked Bella up from school, she couldn’t wait to start telling me about a new author she had found in the school library. Not only was there someone new to read, but she had written a whole series! I love that this is enough to make her happy, and excited about the possibilities of the stories in her future.
I’d like to think that I appreciate the ordinary days, and I’m pretty sure I do. I still marvel at a field full of big fat dairy cows, the way the sun sparkles on the dams and the beautiful green of the grass that they’re lunching on. Spending a few hours painting or playing board games with Bell. Or just reading, writing or working on a jewellery design that’s begging to be made.
If I think of those days when I woke up expecting nothing special, only to have something amazing happen, it makes me realize that every day has exactly the same potential. It’s up to you, are you going to choose to have just another ordinary day…..or is it going to be absolutely awesome?
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